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"I won't bend over backwards for him"
There is this guy at my school that I really like. At first, he seems very shy. However when you get to know him better, it becomes quite clear that he is confident and aware that all the girls go ga-ga for him. He's not really a player because he hardly dates, and has only asked out a few girls in the past, but is a natural flirt. He doesn't flirt with every girl though, but he always flirts with me. I used to greet him every time I saw him in the hall (we pass each other in a empty stairway every day). However, he would seem like a deer in the headlights and give me a half heated "hey". Upset, I stopped greeting him and now walk right passed him without even looking his way. I can tell this is really getting to him. I know he likes me, but I want to show him that unlike every other girl in the school I won't bend-over backwards for him. How should I do this?
18 Feb 2005
Name: Mary
Age: 17
Dear Mary,
Congratulations! You’re already doing it!
Even if when you see him your mouth salivates, the important thing is that you’re keeping the drool inside where it belongs, and not dripping down your chin. And that, my friend, is what sets up apart from the other googly-eyed, ga-ga girls! So props to you for doing a fabulous job!
But now it seems a decision needs to be made. You can keep doing what you’re doing, playing hard to get and showing him how un-weak he makes your knees, or you can show him how ultra-confident and cool you are by walking right up to him and asking him out! While you’re right that he’s probably bored with the other girls who don’t challenge him or make him work for their attention, I can promise he’s definitely not used to savvy girls with enough self-assuredness to ask him out, either! So why not go for it? You already stand out from the rest of the passive herd and it’s obvious he already likes you, so what do you have to lose?
And like I said, you can keep playing the games and hoping that maybe, just maybe, he’ll ask you out, or you can take matters into your own hands and guarantee yourself a date with him!
Good luck!
Marissa
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