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I joined this club at my school, where we have to learn a dance & perform it at our school's show. We have guys in the dance too, but they come in after half the song. The problem is that my ex boyfriend (we recently broke up) is the partner of this girl I know. It's very hard for me to see them dancing together, I don’t act like myself.
Now I want to ask his best friend to be my partner, just to get my ex jealous & this will show that I don’t care if he dances with that girl. I know that if his best friend will agree to be my partner, I will dance the best I ever dance, just so that he can regret not being my partner. Do you think what I’m doing is right? Or should I stop before I get in too deep?
2 Jan 2005
Name: Tammy
Age: 15
Dear Tammy,
On the contraire, my dear, asking your ex’s best friend to be your partner will only show him how much you actually do care and just how jealous you are of his dancing mate.
Instead, the best revenge is to enjoy every second you spend in that club, no matter who your partner turns out to be.
I want happiness to seep through your veins, I want you to laugh like you’ve never had so much fun in your life, and I want you to put your best foot (and face) forward everyday at practice, straight through to your final performance. You’ve got to show your ex (and everyone else) just how fabulous and awesome you are. And the beauty you’ll no doubt radiate due to your confidence and happiness may in turn present you with a whole new slew of suitors! And that will definitely make your ex jealous, but by then you won’t care because you’ll be inundated with all your new male-options!
In the meantime, do your best to hide the jealousy and sadness you feel at seeing your ex dance with this other girl. Remember, just because they’re partners does not mean they have feelings for one another – and one measly dance is nothing compared to what you two shared together.
And so use this opportunity to take the high road. By no means do anything to intentionally hurt your ex. Just have fun, enjoy yourself and if you have to, ignore his very existence – make this performance about you, not him! And in the end, I guarantee you’ll be the one who comes out on top!
Good luck!
-Marissa
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