"Women make me sick"

Before I begin, let me just say that my words and advice are from my own opinion, and not a medical stand point. While I will try to offer the best advice I possibly can, in your case I believe it would also be extremely helpful to work through your thoughts and feelings in a more traditional therapist/patient atmosphere.

I say this because your loathing of women is not a mere surface problem that can be solved through a few simple words of advice. Yes, I may be able to help put you on the right track, but I think only through therapy/counseling will you really be able to understand your intense feelings and thus finally free yourself of your consuming revulsion of women.

Putting it lightly, your ex-girlfriend is a bad seed. And if I were you, I would call her the “Evil One” also. But, hear me when I say that she does not represent all women. This is extremely important for you to understand. I have a friend who dated a real loser. He hurt her time and time again and put her through misery and hell. When their relationship ended, she was left with significant trust issues regarding both relationships and men. Although she has been with her current boyfriend (who is wonderful) for over a year, she is just now beginning to trust him and not constantly second guess all his actions and the future of their relationship. Even though her new boyfriend is nothing like her ex and has never given her any reason to believe he would hurt her, she, like you, is mentally trained to expect such behavior from the opposite sex. I will tell you the same thing I always tell her: your new girlfriend is NOT your ex-girlfriend. I repeat: your new girlfriend is NOT your ex-girlfriend. Just because you had a negative experience in your last relationship does not mean you will go though the same thing this time around. Understand and accept this.

As difficult as this may be, the only way to heal is to fully work through your emotional feelings and pain from your last relationship, so you can finally let the anger go. Dispense it. Let it drift away. Holding onto all that anger and hatred will only intensify your anguish and suffering, and it will disallow you from ever being able to open your heart and love another woman (or any human being for that matter).Just think, you could miss out on the most amazing, caring and wonderful love of your life, all because you weren’t willing to release your anger from your ex. She’s already hurt you terribly and ruined too much of your life, do not let her ruin one more day by sabotaging love for you in the future!

I believe that my advice, coupled with traditional therapy to work through your deep-seated anger, will send you on your way to genuine happiness and a heart that is once again ready to love fully and unconditionally. You will get through this.

Marissa