"I can't find a boyfriend"

Dear Kayla,

Although the process of dating can definitely seem like a sport, it’s not hunting season. And even if it were, it’s better to hunt for animals such as deer and elk, not men. I’m not gonna lie, the idea of hunting them down, capturing them and making them all ours, it’s tempting. But fortunately for the hairier, more muscular species, this is not the case. So the first thing you need to do is rid yourself of the attitude that that you can’t “find a man” because it’s not about finding, hunting or making just any guy like you, it’s about meeting someone special who makes your heart beat a little faster and most importantly, feels the same way about you in return. Unfortunately, you can’t hurry up that process, it’ll happen when it’s supposed to happen. And it’s not about waiting around for some guy to find you, it’s about realizing how fabulous you are and not settling for anyone less than you deserve.

In the meantime, realize that all your happiness should not stem from a guy or having a boyfriend – even if he is Brad Pitt’s h-o-t look-a-like cousin – but instead, your happiness should come from within. Never look outward to another person for fulfillment, because then your happiness is not real, and will inevitably disappear if that person should leave your life. And what’s more, being genuinely happy, content, confident and self-assured makes you ultra desirable to the opposite sex. So it’s a pretty ironic catch 22 – create your own happiness, and shift your focus from hunting to a boyfriend back to yourself, and voila, you’ll have to start carrying around tissues for all the boys who will be drooling over you!

Good Luck!
- Marissa