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"How do I get to know her?"
Iím 18 and from Ireland and would like to know how you get a girl. There's a girl I have fancied for a while in school but I never have the confidence to talk to her. It's beginning to get frustrating for me as I can't stop thinking about her and would give my right arm to take her out some time. Iíve been told many times that Iím handsome but Iím still shy and self-conscious.
I believe i could get this girl and that she is in my league but I just donít know how. I feel I should do something quick as Iím leaving school shortly and I donít want to be left with regret. Please help....
8 June 2006
Confidence, my friend. Itís all about confidence! Thatís how you get the girl. As a matter of fact, thatís how you get everything!
Here you are telling me youíre a good-looking guy and deep down you believe you stand a chance with this girl Ė sheís in your league Ė but your lack of confidence is keeping you from going for her. Well itís up to you to change that! Build up that self-assurance and go for it.
Hereís a trick (a trick I live my life by): Even if you donít feel uber-confident, fake it! Fake it till you make it. It may sound overly simple, but I guarantee you it works. Not only will your girl (and the rest of the world) be none the wiser, but pretty soon you wonít be faking it anymore. Youíll actually believe Ė and be Ė confident!
As for the single most attractive quality we possess? Confidence! So exude it. Trust in yourself and believe in who you are. Youíre a great guy that any girl would be lucky to get to know and go out with Ė your crush is no different! Just the same as youíd feel elated to date her, how fortunate sheíd be to get to date you! Remember that.Say this to yourself over and over: ďIím the prize!Ē Because itís true, you are.
Keep in mind that your crush is just a person Ė same as you, same as all your friends and family members. Of course sheís special (as are you), but sheís only human. So remove her from the pedestal youíve placed her on. This alone will make it a lot easier for you to talk to her.
So now that youíve got confidence in tow and see her for the person she is, talk to her! What are you waiting for? Ask her what sheís up to this weekend and see if she wants to catch a movie with you. Or ask her to grab coffee with you one afternoon. Or if youíre too nervous to jump right into asking for a date, then little by little make chatting with her habit.
Pretty soon, it wonít feel nerve-wracking anymore because youíll be so used to talking with her, youíll view her as a friend (with a lot of romantic potential!).