"Waiting for him to call is killing me!"

Dear Emily,

Ahhh the strife of giving our crushes our digits – we gather all our courage to do it, and then we have to sit around and wait and wait and wait for the darn phone to ring.

So what do you do? Don’t sit around and wait.

I suggest you stop giving your crush all the power and take control of the situation; it’s time to quit being the girl who waits by the phone, and start being the girl who picks it up!

I don’t literally mean you have to start calling your crush, but rather than waiting for his “I like you” cues, start omitting some of your own. Hints such as touching his arm when you talk to him or making eye contact when you pass him in the halls are subtle enough that you won’t intimidate him, but strong enough to grab his attention. And since he loves cracking jokes when you’re around, why not impress him with a few funny lines of your own? After all, everyone loves a sense of humor!

The point is, now that you’ve given him your number and you’re waiting for him to call, in your mind, you’ve relinquished your power. Since it’s up to him whether or not to call, you think that he’s got all the control. But in reality, maybe the reason your phone has yet to ring is because your crush – who with his blushing cheeks probably feels the same about you as you do about him – might be nervous about dialing your number. We’ve all been there. We finally have their number in our possession, but we don’t call because we’re clueless as to what to say when we get the object of our affection on the phone!

So, see? You have just as much control as he does! Start asserting it!I say you kick your flirtation into high gear. Not only is flirting a great way to put yourself in the forefront of your crush’s mind, but hopefully it’ll give him the confidence boost he needs to finally pick up the phone.

Good luck!

Marissa