"He loves me, but won't break up with her!"

Dear Ivonna,

He’s not willing to break her heart but he has no problem ripping yours to shreds? That should be a bright red warning sign telling you to get up and walk – make that RUN – away. Run away now before he breaks more than just your heart.

Guys like this make me sick. Of course he’s not going to break up with her! Why would he? In his mind, he’s a lucky guy. Since his girlfriend’s out-of-state and therefore none the wiser, he gets to play around with you and any other girl that comes his way, also! Simply stated, he has his cake and gets to it eat, too!

This is just the beginning of an unhealthy and hurtful pattern. He’s not going to break up with his girlfriend, Ivonna. If there’s one thing I know with certainty, that’s it. Guys like him never do. He can tell you he loves you until he’s blue in the face, and even if he honestly believes it, for whatever reason, he doesn’t really want to leave his girl. Your guy is no different than those cheating husbands (and wives, for that matter) that tell their on-the-side lovers that one day they’ll leave their spouses, but they never really do.

And what happens if he eventually does leave his girlfriend for you; what’s to say he wouldn’t do the same thing to you that he’s doing to his current girlfriend? If he’s so comfortable with cheating on this girl, why wouldn’t he feel just as contented cheating on you, too? Just because he says he loves you doesn’t mean his wandering, um, manlihood (or in his pathetic case, “little-boyhood”) won’t wander its way into some other woman’s bed.

Move on. Seriously, this guy is so not worth your time, your effort or your heart. The guy you’re meant to be with won’t have to tell you he loves you because his adoring actions will scream it! And what’s more, you won’t have to compete for your real soul mate’s attention because as far as he’ll be concerned, you’ll be the most important woman in the world.

Good luck!
Marissa