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"Is she playing hard to get or is she into me?"
All right, here's the deal, I am in college and I get the feeling that this woman in my class likes me or is playing games with me, but I am not sure. Here is why I think this.
I really never noticed this woman until she started doing this.
She looks at me when I walk into the room.
There are a bunch of other guys in the class and the only one she looks at (I think) is me.
She started a random conversation with me out of nowhere.
Her friends always smile at me when I am around them.
Out of all the places she sits in the class, she sits two rows in front of me where I can see her everyday.
She looks at me sometimes, the next day she ignores me, other days she looks at me and so on. While I am talking to her, it seems that she wants me to say stuff to her. She is smiling but I don't know if she is into me. I heard it is playing hard to get, but when this happens it seems that she does not want to do anything with me.
So like I said before, I am very confused. What do you all think about this? Is she into me? And if she is why is she doing stuff that makes me think that she does not want anything to do with me.
One final thing, would be, that she is East Indian and I am Spanish. Race is not an issue to me, but I have heard the East Indian culture can be very picky when it comes to who to date. Is it possible for East Indian woman to date a Spanish man?
Here is the final nail in the coffin; this has been going on for 5 months straight.
5 Jan 2006
Name: Andres
Age: 21
Dear Andres,
Coy: adj. affectedly modest or shy especially in a playful or provocative way.
Sound familiar? It should because this is exactly what your crush is doing with you! Do I think she’s into you? Yes, I definitely do. And I think she’s mischievously throwing you mixed signals to grab your attention and make her flirtations less obvious. And let’s face it, playing hard to get works; it’s working with you! When someone’s not readily available to us, it makes them more intriguing and it makes ultimately snagging them that much more exciting and exhilarating.
So the way I see it, you’ve got two choices. The first is to do nothing and let this whole game of cat and mouse go on for another 5 months. And the second is to ask her out.
Ask her out already!
The worst that can happen is she says no, and while that would definitely suck, if you don’t take the risk, you’ll be no better off than you are right now! Because guess what?She also may say yes! And isn’t that worth it? I think it’s definitely worth the possibility of rejection. So go for it! If you want my honest opinion, I think that’s what she’s waiting for.
As for the race/religion factor, every person is different and the only way to know her feelings on the subject matter is to ask her.
Good luck!
Marissa
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