"I fell asleep on my date"

Dear Lynn,

You’re not the first person to doze a little on a date after a few glasses of wine (maybe one day when I get past the embarrassment I’ll tell the story of how I fell asleep at a wedding! In my defense, the wedding was on a vineyard and the guests I was seated with were all terribly boring…).

Obviously, the two of you really clicked, or else you wouldn’t have kept the date going for as long as you did – dinner, drinks, then a movie and more drinks! So why then, after your incredible marathon date, would you think something as minor as taking a teeny tiny catnap on the couch while watching a movie would change his entire perspective of you?

As a single mom – and a human being – you’re entitled to feel sleepy sometimes! And that doesn’t make you less of a catch or a great date! And if after such a great evening together your date really did feel turned off by your little snooze, than quite honestly, that’s his problem, not yours. Be glad you’re seeing his true colors now rather than 5 more dates down the line when both you and your child are emotionally invested.

But truly, everything from his initial casual reaction to your zzz’s, to the not-just-a-peck kiss he gave you afterwards, to suggesting you go out again, tells me his coals haven’t cooled one bit.

So why hasn’t he emailed you yet? There could be a number of reasons – maybe work’s really busy, or perhaps something in his personal life is holding his attention, or (and this is actually what I really think), maybe he’s playing a little game called, “I don’t want to seem too eager so I’ll wait a few days before responding.” Silly? Yes.  But is it working? Mm-hmm!

My guess is you’ll hear back from him in a couple of days and have another date set up by the end of next week.  And this time, maybe just take a powernap before the date, rather than on it!  Kidding…

Good luck!
Marissa