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"My friend at work betrayed me"
A girl I work with caused me a major problem. She was pulling for me to go back with my boyfriend of 27 years, things were going very well, then she in the process introduces him to another girl that works at the same place as I do, but a different shift. Now he is with her, and I don't know what to do. I still see him, he still holds me, and hugs me, he says he is confused, but what do I do, he and I know each other better than anyone, his family wants us to be as one, again. I want to hang in there, but I don't know if it is worth my time. I will never, ever trust this person with anything, I thought she was really on my side.
1 March 2005
Name: Sheila
Age: 54
Dear Sheila,
You’re right to be wary of your co-worker – she’s definitely got some ulterior motives and while it’s unclear what they are, she sure doesn’t have your best interest at heart!
As far as your boyfriend of 27 years, I know it must be so difficult to pull away from him and even more difficult now to see him being affectionate with another woman. Putting any feelings of jealous aside, you need to evaluate all the reasons you ended your relationship with him in the first place. If those reasons are still valid and hold true, than I would suggest moving on – finally and once and for all – so you can find the real man you’ve been looking for.
However, if the reasons for your breakup are inconsequential, and you feel you want to give him another try due to your love for him and the history you share, then I would be honest and upfront with him about your feelings. And please realize in doing this, you’re placing the ball in his court. He may very well decide he wants to spend forever with you and forget this new woman he’s seeing, or he may choose to stay with her and move on from the 27 year relationship you two shared. And should you choose this path, you need to be prepared for the outcome, whatever it may be.
Good luck!
Marissa
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